Self-esteem describes how we see ourselves as individuals, including confidence, self-respect, and what we value or believe about ourselves. Low self-esteem presents as feeling unworthy or hopeless, unconfident, or self-critical. These beliefs can be hard to change, and often the feelings they cause make it even more difficult to improve self-esteem and feel more confident. Low self-esteem is not a mental health problem in itself but can sometimes be a sign of a mental health problem if it is ongoing for some time. Low self-esteem can occur for a number of reasons, including feeling stressed or overwhelmed with tasks or responsibilities, experiencing a break-up or separation from a partner, experiencing bullying, abuse, or discrimination, having physical or mental health problems including concerns about appearance and body image, or problems with money or housing.
Having low self-esteem can make it difficult for people to value or be kind to themselves, and many people feel as though giving themselves too much praise will make them self-centred or narcissistic. However, this is not the case, having positive self-esteem does not mean that you consider yourself to be better than anyone else, but simply means you love and accept yourself for who you are. This means that you are able to take care of your own needs and desires, allowing you to be comfortable in yourself without worrying what other people think, and to have more satisfying relationships and life experiences.
However, improving self-esteem can be very difficult, and it is not always easy for people to recognise when they do not value themselves. The first step is to acknowledge self-talk, which refers to the thoughts or mental conversations we have with ourselves. These can be learnt and often become habitual, subconsciously reinforcing the way we view ourselves. Negative self-talk can lower self-esteem, confidence and motivation, while positive self-talk can raise it. Understanding how self-talk influences the way we feel and behave can help to reshape self-image and self-esteem.
Here at Surrey Therapy Practice, we have a team of experienced professionals who can help with low self-esteem and related issues. Our therapists and counsellors use an integrative approach to tailor their treatment plans to specific individual needs. If you think you or someone you know is experiencing low self-esteem, get in touch and make an enquiry here.
Therapies for Low Self Esteem include: